Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Childfree and Happy

The Dimwit is going off on a tangent today. Seems that lately there's been people who seem to think that the Dimwit and Hotwit are horrible, bad, insane, liberal, etc, people because we have decided not to have children. Here's the deal: we don't want kids. Plain and simple. Our lives are too complicated at this point, so much so that we can't even get a dog, let alone have a family, even if we desired to do so. But the stark truth of it all is that we would very much rather have a dog than a mini-wit. On a recent Houston Chronicle blog, the Dimwit was accused of being gay, liberal and insane because of our choice. Look Breeders, we have no interest in joining your cult, we have no desire to exchange the next 20+ years of our life looking after another person, we'd rather spend our money on vacations, nice cars, a nice house, more vacations... you get my point. We're totally happy accepting that we are selfish and don't think it would be fair to a child to come into this world in our lives. We aren't bad people, we're honest with ourselves. Unlike the many thousands of couples out there who don't realize the same fact, have kids merely to satisfy societal expectations, to make themselves feel better, or to try and save their marriage. The Dimwit acknowledges there are other reasons to have a family, but there are SO many people who breed simply to breed, and that's just wrong. So, from here forward, if you tell the Dimwit that you're "sure you'll change your mind", the Dimwit will ask you "Really, do you want kids? Yes? You do? Well, I'm sure you'll change your mind. I don't want you to be happy either."

Those of us who don't want kids have every right in the world not to want to have them, just as much as those who want them have a right to have them.

Alright, the Dimwit rant of the month is over.


  1. Seems like a touchy subject.

    I respect your right to not have kids (being liberal and all) but I hate for you to miss out on all the FUN (it lasts way longer than 20 years).

  2. I understand that people feel like we are going to miss out on the joy of having and raising kids. Yes, I agree, that children can bring joy. I love spending time with my nephews. They are hilarious. At the same time, we will still have fun with the spontaneity we will be able to keep in our lives. We want to be able to enjoy our time together, and do what we want when we want. Along with the joy and happiness that having children can bring, I don't think any parent will ever say that the good is constant.


  3. To clarify my earlier post, I should define what I meant by FUN.

    1. Lots of puke (various colors)
    2. Lots of poop (various colors)
    3. Total loss of self (because you have to compete with Ward Cleaver, Bill Cosby, and Homer Simpson).

    If I had it do over again, I would, but if I knew then what I know now, I probably couldn't have performed in a manly way (with or without drugs).

  4. Cortico... watch out for the Hotwit, she can get fiesty!!! Haha... Love you babe!

    Poop + Puke = Every reason I need not to have one... hahaha...

    Hope you're doing well Cortico! Take care...

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  6. Idont even know you so I realize I am about to walk into the lions cage but...
    I feel those who dont want children should not have them. My aunt does not want children and up until a few years ago I didnt either. I felt most everybody was supportive over my decision. I myself understand why you may not want to be accountable for another life. Still, there is nothing wrong with people who do want children. When I found out I was pregnant, after being on an IUD, I was terrified! I was beyond ill to my stomach thinking of everything in my life that would change. No more hopping from country to country, no more Las Vegas, no more sex in any room at any time. After the initial shock and fear, the knowledge of having that little life in me, being the cradle of life, bringing people such as yourself into this world, it was euphoric. Then I miscarried, and I cant say that a small bit of relief didnt come over me. The sadness, however, was deeper than anything I could have experienced. Now, I long for nothing more than to create a family with my man.
    So, I am sure you were just on a rant because some lout had tried to convince you that to be a worthy member of our society you needed a f*** trophy. I wanted to be sure you understood that we "Breeders" have just as much right having children as you have right to not. Thanks so much!!!

  7. Baily,

    Thank you so much for your post. I couldn't agree with you more. Those who chose to have children have every right to do so. I don't want to rob anyone of their own personal joy in having them. But I just wish those same people would accept that not everyone shares the opinion that having children is a responsibility for all humans, and that all people would receive that same joy. I appreciate your response and am truly sorry that your miscarriage happened. I hope you and your man can find yourselves happy in whatever life has in store you. Take care!

    The Dimwit